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Five Reasons for watching Distance the series

We are so glad we were invited to the avant premiere of “Distance” the first webserie about Long Distance Relationship, we really enjoyed it (already waiting for second season!)

Launching date is today Tuesday 24th April on their web: distancetheseries 

5 reasons

We wanna encourage all the LDR Community to watch this wonderful serie, so here we are giving 5 reasons for becoming a fan of them:

  1. Originality: Its the first time Long Distance Relationship is the main topic of a serie, also it is recorded in two sides (point of view of Emily and point of view of Sam) which gives you freedom of watching first one side, then the other. As a personal advice, for chapter 4, I would suggest watching Emily’s part first, then Sam.
  2. You will feel identified: even though you are in an intercultural relationship or you haven’t met your loved one yet, this serie will make you feel identified with the daily stuff about being in a LDR: time difference, misunderstandings, connection problems, skyping/facetiming, spending special occasions so far away…
  3. You will laugh: as they addressed the topic with humour and you will find several funny situations, in some moments you will feel like they are showing your Long Distance Relationship (LDR).
  4. You will learn: it’s good watching it with your significant other and discussing about the different situations that Sam and Emily go through, it’s good learning from the successes and failures of other people in long distance!
  5. You will be addicted: probably you will feel one season is not enough, there are so much things that happen in a LDR that you will want to see more about the LDR of Sam and Emily so you will want more and more!Hope you enjoy it as much as we did, let us know if you watched, we would love talking about it! 😀

 

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LDR Inspiration: John & Rachel: our proposal story

On March, 7th, 2018 in Las Vegas we both got dressed up for a special date night (the most important of our lives). John wore a nice dress shirt, dress pants and Huge Boss suit jacket. I wore a stunning Portmans Dress and heels. We got his friend Eduardo to drive us to a simple, yet romantic restaurant called Olive Garden.

We had a lovely dinner except for the fact there was a children’s birthday party in the same seating area we were allocated to. After dinner we headed back to our hotel room. We chilled out and chatted a bit because it was our las night and all. We were both sad that we had to say see you soon tomorrow but accepting the reality of the situation particularly in our long distance relationship. We shared a Philly Steak from the downstairs Deli and a chocolate mouse cheesecake from Olive Garden that we took to go.

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Later, in the evening, John played a song that he sent to me at the start of our relationship when we first started talking in May 2017 called “Dream come true” from the RWBY Anime TV Show. He made me smile and laugh because I adore the song so much. I suggested he play “Perfect” by Ed Sheeran and started to tear up because of the lyrics and how they describe our feelings for each other. I said “babe, this is the moment” and so he grabbed the ring that I provided (had it since July 2017) and said: “Rachel Helena Marks will you marry me? And I said YES!

How to tell my parents that I am in a LDR?

Hello guys! Our aim is starting to update our blog more frequently so we will really appreciate to hear what would you like to read about. In this occasion we wanna give advices on one common issue, we have received several messages related to this topic and we also went through this: how to tell parents we are in a Long Distance Relationship.

Well of course every family is a world, but generally our parents are expecting us to tell them we are having a relationship with someone we already met face to face, someone who lives (at least) in the same city. So when we have to tell them we are in love (in some cases) with someone we met online, thıngs get odd and diffıcult to communicate. Sometimes we met someone while we were on holidays or studying abroad, in this case the difficult part will be telling our parents we are in love with someone living so far. Every story is different, but in most of the cases the moment of telling them you are in a LDR will be special, so you will need to plannify some thıngs.

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For example, in my case I decided to communicate it slowly, so at the beginnıng of my LDR I told my parents I had a friend abroad, with the time we made it official, in this moment I decided to communicate it to my family. I highly recommend you to wait till it is 100% official, in my case I waited 3 months!

The world is not educated about LDR (people don’t even know what LDR means wasn’t it Lana Del Rey?- LOL) so we have the task of explainıng them more about it. I remember telling my parents I was in a LDR and showing them some successful stories and showing them the world is full of LDR and distance doesn’t mean the relationship won’t work, once they realised I was in love, they started to feel confident about my LDR.

Let them know him/her is real: it is good if you start to introduce your loved one via Skype and including him/her in your conversations will help your family to get used to.

In my case it worked, with the time they were asking for my loved one and sending greetings and sometimes we were creating special videocalls.

I know some of you have close minded families, it is normal, our parents rarely had a LDR or had close friends with LDR, but our task is making them think that we are in a huge world where everybody is different, we need to accept the fact that everybody is different, who said we have to be in love with someone of the same culture in the same country? Love is blind at this differences, nowadays every time is more common seeing interracial and intercultural couples which is amazing! The task of our families is respecting our decisions and being with us in one of the most beautiful life experiences! that is being in love.  

10 reasons why everybody in a LDR deserves a medal!

I think possitive vibes lead to: possitive thoughts, possitive actions and of course a possitive life style, that is why I always decide to find the best side of everything. This word needs more of this! Being in a LDR for almost 5 years (and still counting!) has taught me many things, today I wanna talk of some of the stressful situtations someone in a LDR has to live, reason why we are real strong and warriors of life!

That is why if you went through some of this situations in your LDR, you deserve a medal!  

Every relationship is unique, that is why every LDR has its own ingredients, some people is sorting some problems some other couples have no idea, so here I am just telling some general:

 

  1. How to communicate your environment you are in a LDR: this is a complicated situation maybe you find it difficult because of your family, because of your friends, or what is worst: because of both… Probably you won’t avoid thinking how to make them believe in your LDR and take it seriously.
  2. Overcoming different time zones: this is a really difficult issue in a LDR, if you don’t have it: congratulations!! If you have it, you know what I mean: having an app telling you his/her current time or calculating his/her sleeping or waking up time, trying to fit to his/her routine can be stressful at times.
  3. Communication: it is essential for every relationship, sometimes it is more difficult due to time differences but it is something you need to work on.
  4. Cultural differences: some of the LDR are also intercultural relationships, this means you have to deal with a new culture (the one of your loved one) try to understand and in some cases try to learn a new language.
  5. Connection: it is true, nowadays we have great ways of communication, Internet made things easier but connection problems still exist Skype or Whatsapp calls usually get stuck and Whatsapp or Messenger also get stuck sometimes. We are so Internet aholics and it is awful when we don’t have other way of contacting him/her than through Internet. What if he/she lost the phone or has no battery? This situations can make us go crazy, is not as easy as calling his/her home!
  6. Calculating how much money do you need for visiting him/her: this can be really frustrating as flight tickets are not cheap, so once you learn how much, you will have to start saving and saving and saving.
  7. Checking prices of flights: this is like a sport, something for doing quite frequently, because prices are changing every day, every week, so if you wanna get a deal, you should be checking the flight prices frequently!
  8. Being a solo traveller: this can be the best or the worst, just depends on you, but probably for meeting your boo you will have to travel alone (unless you have enough money for inviting someone of your family or friends). Travelling alone has something special: you have to be prepared for everything, you have to be prepared for solving every problem by your side, this can be really stressful but in my opinion its something everybody should do at least once!
  9. Thinking in every visit: being in a LDR requires plannifying visits, sometimes you will have to travel and sometimes your loved one will, sometimes won’t be possible due to lack of money or lack of holidays or other problems, this is extremely hard.
  10. How to close the distance: this is one of the most important stages of the relationship, of course will be stressful maybe you will have to obtain a citizenship and later get a visa or maybe you just have to think where to get married and live together, as simple and as difficult as this.  

For this (and probably more) reasons is that everybody who is or has been in a LDR deserves a medal, for sure this is not for everybody, so if you are in, feel really warrior and strong.

Now its your turn of sharing with us your experiences!

A Valentine Letter For The LDR Community

Today is a very special day for all of the people who is in love, today is Valentine’s day, so we wanted to write this post specially for those who are (or have been) in a long distance relationship.

We admire all of you, because having and mantaining a LDR is not easy, because it has its ups and downs, and maybe there are moments in which you feel weak and think in giving up but there you remember why you started, what is the main reason of being in a LDR, there you remember its because you are in love and love conquers all, if there is love you will find the strenght to overcome everything.

 

 

Some of you will spend today with your loved one, this is amazing! 😀 Some others not, but all of  you have a reason for being proud: being in love and being loved, the best feelings of this world, feel lucky because you have found your soulmate, if there is love, there is everything, including hope, so everything will be okay!

Happy Valentine’s to all the LDR Community, thanks for existing, if we are all together in this way everything will be better!

 

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LDR New Year Gifts Ideas

Hello everybody, hope you are fine! This moment of the year is ideal for thinking about what we did this year, what we forgot, what was the best, what the worst…

We make ourselves so busy with this things that maybe we forget about the first gift of the new year, if you are in a long distance relationship you know how important is every little thing so it is time for thinking how to surprise your loved one and here I am giving some ideas about gifts for your LDR partner!

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  1. Travel Diary: if you are good at handcrafting you can decore a notebook and give to your loved one for sharing every adventure! If you hate handcrafting or just don’t have time, you can buy either online or in a shop, for sure you will find the best option!
  2. Photo Album: as the previous idea, you can handcraft it or just buy, it is ideal if you send it empty because the idea is filling with pics (also Skype pics) taken during the new year!
  3. Feelings jar: you can buy or decore a jar and put inside little papers with feelings or romantic sentences, a shock of positivity for those difficult moments everybody in a LDR go through.
  4. Send a letter with your handwriting: nowadays it looks rare reading a letter with handwriting, it is a pitty because the handwriting tells a lot about feelings and personality, reading a letter written by your loved one is not the same as reading a mail. So it can be great if you send him/her a love letter!
  5. “10 reasons why I love you”: as we told in the previous point, the handwriting adds value also if you write and put in a closed envelope 10 (or more) reasons why you love him/her it will be a great gift!
  6. “Our New Year Targets”: experts say that if you write your targets and read them frequently, there are more probabilities you achieve them, so it is great if you think in writing them in a piece of wood or in a whiteboard, this are some suggestions but of course you can think in others!

 

Hope this ideas are useful, most of them are easily achievable and cheap, this is the best. Now tell me: would you add some?? I love to listening more ideas!! 😀

Why being in a LDR is not the same as having a platonic love?

I am surprised with the lack of education that exists about the long distance relationships, we are in the XXI Century, people should not look at us as ufo when we tell them we are in a LDR, but surprisingly, it happens.

It took me time to realize why people is still surprised, but I reached to a conclusion I wanna share with all of you!

People tend to confuse a Long Distance Relationship with a Virtual Relationship, they tend to think being in a LDR is a sign of immaturity, that it is because we don’t wanna be involved with real people and have real relationships and so on.

But hello!! I am a real person and my loved one is a real person also, we are not robots or toys, being in love with someone who is far doesn’t mean we are in love with someone that does not exist.

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Great example is when someone is pregnant, all the family is loving the baby, despite they can’t see him/her they can feel him/her and love it even before they see or touch them, is not an imaginary baby, it is a real baby.

Well, waiting for seeing and touching the baby takes 9 months, sometimes seeing and touching your loved one can take more (or less) than this time and it is always real, never product of your imagination.


Sometimes the parents are the first in worrying and thinking that being in a LDR means having an imaginary relationship, a platonic love, so far from the truth! We are not kids talking with an imaginary friend, we are young adults that feel in love with real people, we are developing strong feelings and more deep and real than some others relationships.

This is not virtual love, not platonic because the distance is just a moment, a test in the relationship, it won’t last forever and at the end, no matter how time it will take, the distance will be closed and the couple will be together and more stronger than never!